How to Handle Insecurities in a Relationship.

No matter what, most of us have baggage.
Even in our first relationships, we all have this idea of how things should be, and when they don’t go that way, we tend to get upset.
Insecurity is one of the biggest killers of any relationship, which is why it’s imperative that you can manage and control it.



Of course, that is much easier said than done, particularly when you’ve been hurt before.
Fortunately, though, there are ways that you can overcome your insecurities.
It won’t be easy, and there is obviously no guarantee that nothing bad will happen, but the more you practice it, the easier it will be to get over yourself when it’s most important.
So, with that in mind, here are some basic tips to help you get started on the path to a more secure you.

Be Independent

One of the biggest reasons that people are insecure in a relationship is because they are dependent on other people’s feelings and moods.So, if your partner is acting strange or upset, our tendency is to think that we’re to blame and that it could be a sign of something far worse.
Thus, the most important thing you can do is learn to be comfortable with yourself.
Even though most of us don’t like being alone, we have to understand that it’s likely going to happen.
What you really want to avoid is being with someone just to avoid loneliness, as that can have devastating consequences.
While there is no magic secret to being independent, the best thing you can do is practice.
If you are currently single and looking, then take a break and try to enjoy life by yourself.
Think of the bright side of it all (do whatever you want, save money, greater flexibility) and train yourself to be comfortable in that kind of situation.
Overall, the more you do it, the easier it will be to accept.

Talk to Your Partner

Many times, our insecurity comes from the unknown.
We get too wrapped up in our heads thinking about what could be happening that we don’t sit down and talk with our SO about what is going on.
So, the best thing you can do is be open and honest.
At first, you may think that it will ruin the relationship because you don’t want to have a conversation every time something negative pops into your head, but really it’s the best thing for both of you.
The ideal way to approach the subject is to talk to your partner about how you feel about certain things and be honest about your insecurities.
At the same time, you should also let him or her know that you will work to avoid jumping to conclusions so that he or she doesn’t have to worry so much about every little thing.
In the end, the more open you can be with your partner, the better and stronger your relationship will be.
Instead of your mind racing with questions, you should be able to find out answers so that you can put your brain to rest.

Learn to Let Go

This is a hard one for most people, and again, there is no magic trick to accomplish this task.
However, if you can manage to train your mind, this is one thing that you should master.
Too often, we tend to blow things out of proportion because we assume the worst when really we should learn to accept the small things and not freak out.
While this technique may seem difficult at first, and perhaps even cruel, one of the best ways to train your brain is to accept the possibility of breaking up with your partner.
Even if things are going smoothly, you should think about and become comfortable with that happening.
This way, you won’t get so hung up on smaller things and will start to look at the bigger picture.
Overall, it may not work for everyone, but it’s a good place to start. 

Know Your Worth

Finally, the best thing you can do to combat your insecurity is to realize that you are not deserving of foul treatment.
Even if you have been hurt in the past, even if you believe that your partner is too good for you, you should know that you are just as worthy of a relationship as anyone.
As long as you are a decent partner and you don’t always put your needs above his or hers, then you shouldn’t feel insecure at all.
At the end of the day, you should try to train yourself to realize that you deserve love and affection like anyone else, and that just because someone treated you badly doesn’t diminish your worth.

Bottom Line

Overall, when it comes to managing your insecurity, you have to realize that it is something that you are going to have to get over.
While your partner can help you along the way by reassuring you that things are going well, you are in control of your mind.
As such, you should make it a priority to work on yourself and learn how to manage your insecurity so that it doesn’t affect the relationship too much.
In the end, it will be better for both of you.



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