In most friendships or relationships, you discover that there are always
givers and receivers. Being a giver is amazing if done in moderation
but can be disastrous if done overboard.
For a giver, saying no is seen as a taboo but sometimes, it is necessary
to say No! Investing your time and effort into a relationship and
bending backward to please the other party without getting any in return
can be emotionally draining and quite unhealthy.
How do you know if you are the giver? I will reply that with some
questions that can be indicators. Are you always the one initiating
conversations with the other person? Are you more interested in others
and their life more than they are with yours?
The best relationships are the ones that strike a balance between
receiving and giving that no one can lay claim to either title. When you
comfortably accept the role of being a giver, you will develop
resentment because you will always be taken advantage of.
The beauty of relationships is the coming together of two people who are
partners and will work as a team. It is the reciprocity of care, and
when it is coming from one end alone, it means that you are probably
just trying too much.
Stop over investing yourself in relationships where the other doesn’t
bother; you just may give too much of yourself till there is nothing
left to give.
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